Sometimes to really get to know someone, you need to get past the formalities, the assumptions, and the internet insanity, and just have a conversation. That’s what I found in talking with Brit Hartley, Religious Deconstruction Coach from No Nonsense Spirituality.
Brit’s dedication is to exploring the human experience without relying on dogmatism or authoritarian ideologies, and supporting people in their journeys for self-discovery. We talk about that need, and the antipathy some have, particularly in secular circles, to anything that smacks of religiosity, even as that fear cuts people off from the many nuances of human experience and the bonds we are all seeking to build.
As Brit notes on her site, in describing the service she provides:
No belief required - We can explore spirituality, meaning, ritual, and connection without asking you to believe things you do not believe.
Deconstruction without demolition - We look honestly at what religion harmed, what it gave you, and what you want to carry forward.
Psychology before Theology - We explore the human needs beneath belief: belonging, identity, certainty, purpose, morality, and connection.
Meaning that fits your actual life - Rather than replacing one rigid system with another, we build a framework that reflects your values, personality, relationships, and lived experience.
As the conversation shows, I could not agree more and find that what is important in creating a life of active meaning-making is to move forward with what you’re for, what I refer to as values, rather than losing yourself in the destructive battle of what you’re against.
I hope you enjoy the free-flowing chat as much as I did, and definitely check out Brit’s work.
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