Lesson three of deconstruction and healing is about that very thing you’re warned about in leaving religion, the thing the authoritarians declare you’ll never find, and will ultimately result in heinous acts of debauchery. Ethics and morality.
While certainly many behaviors you may get up to in your secular life could be and likely are considered acts of debauchery, they are anything but heinous, and you are still very much living a life aligned with your values.
This is a lesson I write about quite often, so I encourage you to read the many articles that exist on values, but when it comes to religious deconversion, values are especially important precisely because the religious think they own them. Spoiler: they do not.
