There comes a point in time where life no longer seems neat and tidy. Relationship conflict, whether romantic, business, or social, often brings these moments into focus, because our relationships are us. A healthy skepticism emerges after seeing far too many examples of people making decisions to continue an association that has long since become destructive. This continuation is, not because people are unaware of what they’re doing, but more due to the fact that their decisions are made within the current relational matrix. The problem is people believe it’s an act of one ball, in this case, the “I” making a decision to effect another ball, the “relationship,” and ignore the existing complex environment in which the decisions are made.